Category Archives: This blog

Why I Write About Abusive Relationships, and Pretty Much Everything

After reading the post To the Abused, a friend asked me why I had written it.

The simple answer is a risk/reward analysis. The few hours it takes to compose, write and rewrite that blogpost, as well as its predecessor, are well worth the time if they will help a single victim of intimate partner violence to change her life to the better.

But I guess the question wasn’t meant that way. The emphasis of the question might have been why I had written it, since I have never been in an abusive relationship myself and my profession has nothing to do with the subject.

My answer to such implication is that I am an intellectual. My life is about recognizing and understanding underlying structures and create explanations and thought structures, which will help people confront different situations during their lifetime.

Which is fanzy words for saying that I am dedicated to thinking and solving problems. It’s deeply buried into my nature, and I can’t do much about it. Other than freeing as much time as possible to write here and thereby free myself slightly of the weight of being intellectual.

Publish Your Mistakes on Your Blog

You might have noticed that my two last posts, To Victims of Abuse: Take Your Responsibility and To the Abused, actually is the same post written in two different styles. Let me explain why I have written two posts about the same thing.

It was while I was writing the first article, that I found that it wasn’t sufficiently emotionally compelling. As much of my writing, the post had a teaching tone rambling through it. I have no problem with that myself, I can enjoy reading that specific style.

But I know that the vast majority of readers are not emotionally aroused by intellectual reflections. They have severed the bridge between their intellectuality and emotions, thus created abstract thinking. And when we read great books like The Robert Collier Letter Book, we understand that the most important for any writer is to arouse feelings within the reader.

So, my first text was bad.

But I believe that the topic is immensely important. I wanted to reach for as many people who has the need to read about it as possible.

I chose to write the other text as a letter. I was most certainly unconsciously influenced by The Robert Collier Letter Book, but also by the fact that personal writing touches people and the best way to write something compellingly personal, is by writing a letter written for a specific person. The other text is the result of me trying to write such letter.

Furthermore, I wanted to have both texts, so I could compare the two styles and see for myself, if my hypothesis was right that the letter form would be more compassionate.

I believe that my second text is better. What do you think?

Finally, there is one more reason to why I finished the first text, while I already had decided to write a better, more intimate version. That reason is that different texts will appeal to different people. There might be some people who like the first version better.

But I haven’t always reasoned that way.

Before I started any of my blogs www.torbjornperttu.se and www.torbjornperttu.com, I had no publishing arena. Surely I could have published whatever I had written on various internet communities and dashboards. But that would be to no avail.

Because I have my blogs now, I have a platform where I can launch my writing. Therefore I can afford to write several texts on the same topic. Without my selfcreated platforms, I would have to “make an impression” on magazine gate keepers. Then I could not afford to write “bad” pieces, since that might lead to false preconceptions that I am a “bad” writer.

Finishing texts is important for development into a proficient writer. Therefore I suggest everyone who wants to write today, to start a blog. The feedback you might get from your audience, by click statistics, incoming links and/or commenteries, is far more valuable than any second hand opinion made by editor readers who are trying to second guess the audience.

When you have a blog, you are free to improvise, to test and to fail. That is the most important asset any writer could have. Therefore, if you want to write, create your own blog and publish your texts there.